There is a misdirected belief that all one needs is willpower and determination to be successful and success breeds worth.
We’ve been told that it takes determination to be successful. Will power, determination, hard work all are prized measures of success. And it is success that makes us worthy.
There’s just a little issue with this way of thinking.
It’s not true because true worthiness is an inside job.
Your Human Design, and this is universal, is a blueprint for how you are meant to be in this lifetime. The goal is to be as authentically you as is possible and that means shedding the layers and layers of conditioning you’ve experienced to get to the real you.
Human Design tells us that we either have a defined will center or an undefined/open one. (The Will, or Ego Center is one of nine energy centers in the body.) The Will Center themes are related to motivation, commitment, mastery of resources. When it is balanced there is a healthy drive, having strong boundaries, knowing when to step back and a knowing of one’s value.
When it is unbalanced, we find ourselves overcommitted, overextending, trying to prove our worth and often become workaholics, needing to control. What the world sees is a hard-working, determined individual making a go of it through sheer willpower because we think we need to meet the standard measures of success like title, money, prestige.
It’s time to shift your thinking.
The truth is you are worthy because you exist.
No other reason.
But, if you’re not feeling particularly worthy, what can you do?
Live in Integrity. This means you need to know who you are and what you value. It means honoring yourself with living in by those values. Awareness of what’s important to you and what you’re willing to do is the first step.
Establish your boundaries. Your physical integrity may mean not putting in all those hours that leave you depleted and burned out. You can’t be successful when you can’t function at your best. Instead, think about what you need to do to actually be your best.
Honor yourself with self-care. Self-care is more than getting your nails done or visiting the hairdresser. Self-care is knowing when to rest, taking time for yourself (another boundary), doing something you enjoy and that relieves stress.
Practice Self-Discipline. This combines self-care and boundaries and being able to communicate them so that you live and work in a way that honors you as a person. When you honor yourself, you can expect others to honor you as well.
Understand that when life doesn’t go your way, it has nothing to do with being worthy. Life just is like that. Twists and turns come, shocks happen, and we are called to adapt to external circumstances. It’s not personal. It’s not about your worth. It’s life.
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When you’re ready, I invite you to begin your journey to becoming your authentic aligned self through my Immerse Yourself in You approach to learning your Human Design. You’ll come to know how you are designed and can begin to see where your conditioning may be and how it impacts your self-worth. It’s an enlightening process of coming to awareness about your nature, your blueprint of your design that belongs only to you. Learn more in my About Me section and book your complimentary call.
