Your best life is one that is aligned to your truest, authentic self.
That is so easy to say or write.
But, you ask, don’t we all automatically do that?
The short answer (unfortunately) is “No.”
Every single one of us is a product of our nature (or your perfect Human Design) and our nurturing which is also called our conditioning. We are imprinted by the care we receive, the values we are taught, the communities in which we live, the way we are treated and the expectations that are created for us.
This can result in a life of trying to fit in, blend in, people please, or at the other extreme, just checking out and rebelling. We don’t even realize how much we have internalized that impacts our authenticity.
How do we then get to our aligned life?
How do we become our authentic self?
First, we need to understand that we are a product of our conditioning, no judgement, but that the way we were raised, the neighborhood, religion, family, community, school, friends, and so one, all have a part to play. For some of us, we received positive affirmative messages. Others did not.
Sometimes those positive messages ended up having us try to reach unrealistic perfection to live up to what others thought we were. My father, for instance, always bragged that I was an A student. The truth was I only received all A’s once in second grade! I was an A & B student. I could have internalized the message and stressed out aiming for perfection but I didn’t. Someone else though, may have felt that to please the father, they would have to get all A’s whether realistic or not.
That person may not feel worthy, feel like they aren’t enough, became an overachiever or just gave up and is an underachiever, not recognizing any potential in themselves.
See how conditioning can work?
Our mistaken perceptions or beliefs become our limitation story that becomes internalized and hence, we live in a conditioned state instead of our authentic state.
The good news is that conditioning can be overcome.
It begins with Awareness.
Who am I really?
Is this story true about me or is it someone’s version of me?
Why do I believe or internalize this story?
Do I want to keep this story?
Now that’s a big one because it means becoming aware enough of whether you want to change the narrative.
Then we move to Acceptance – acceptance of who we are, strengths and “flaws” or what I call the “in spite of/despite” parts of us. I accept I was an excellent student, loved learning and that I was not a straight A student, willingly. I accept that my view of myself was never based on my grades and there was more to me than being a student. I didn’t work hard in school to please my father – I did it because I loved learning.
That’s how acceptance works. Becoming perfectly okay with just how you are.
Acceptance leads to Self-Love.
The most important love relationship you can have in your lifetime is the one with yourself.
You might tell your partner or child you love them every day, and now I ask, do you do the same to yourself?
Self love doesn’t mean you hide the parts of you that make you uncomfortable, but that you are aware enough and accept them and then, if you want, take action to change what needs to be changed so you can live authentically as you.
That’s Readiness.
When you reach readiness, you can begin the transformation from someone who is not you to the real you. It’s the next leg of your journey to you.
When you’re ready, I invite you to begin your journey to becoming your authentic aligned self through my Immerse Yourself in You approach to learning your Human Design. You’ll come to know how you are designed and can begin to see where your conditioning may be. It’s an enlightening process of coming to awareness about your nature, your blueprint of your design that belongs only to you.
Learn about my 5-Step Journey to Alignment and please feel free to book a call with me to learn more and see if it’s a good fit for you.
